A Holiday Gift For You

In Uncategorized on December 5, 2016 at 8:13 PM

Speaking and being an effective speaker are not the same thing. We all know how to speak – that comes with having a mouth. Being able to speak in a manner that helps to enlighten others – that is the tricky part.

As a holiday gift, you can receive a package of speaking tips delivered to your email inbox  – one tip per week for 8 weeks absolutely free. No tricks, no gimmicks, no obligation – just my way of thanking you.


Each tip is short and to the point and will be sent separately so you can absorb each thought. Put together – they will make a powerful set of tools designed to make you a better presenter.

These techniques and ideas work regardless of the size of your audience – you can be speaking to a packed room, presenting at a staff meeting, or speaking one-on-one.

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Happy holidays.

The One Thing All Audiences Care About

In Uncategorized on December 5, 2016 at 8:06 PM

Work, family, hobbbies, vacation, religion, politics, sexuality – what is your favorite thing to talk about? While not everyone will admit it – most people’s choice is themselves. Likewise, the topic we find most interesting to listen to is again, ourselves.


Use this to your advantage when trying to capture the attention of your audience. Tell them something you know about them, a quality you admire, or an obstacle they have overcome. Cite the good work they have done or acknowledge their efforts – in a sincere and honest manner. Talk about them before you talk about yourself.

When you have done this, the next step is to make a connection between their life and what are going to talk about.

This technique helps grab the audience’s attention and encourages them to listen to you. It is amazing how engaging it is to hear a person talk about us! Many speakers begin by listing their own credentials and experiences – which most audiences find far less interesting.

Have you ever been in a crowded room full of noise when suddenly you hear one word above the roar – that word is your name? Your ears perk up and you focus on finding out who said it. It is the one topic that we are always interested in hearing about – regardless of our mood or what else is going on.

In a speech to a group of volunteers, the mayor of a large city began by talking about the importance of volunteerism, the benefits to the volunteer, and the difference in the world these people are making. He could have talked about his efforts spearheading this  program or the accomplishments of his administration but instead he spoke to the audience about the audience and in doing so, gained their attention, their support, and their loyalty.

A great way to grab and hold your audience’s attention is to speak about something near and dear to them. For example, when speaking to a decision making body (such as a city council) –begin by acknowledging the work the council does in creating a better civic life, When speaking to a potential client acknowledge their successes and the challenges they face.

The next time you are getting ready to speak – put “you” into your sentence before you say “I.” It takes effort to do this, almost as if it is unnatural, but you can learn to do this effectively in a short amount of time.

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Speak Well Every Time You Talk

In Uncategorized on December 2, 2016 at 8:53 AM


Consider these scenarios:

  • You have to make a presentation at a conference or trade show. You do not know these people and will probably never see them again.
  • You are asked to make a presentation at tomorrow’s staff meeting.
  • You need to talk to your spouse or child about family finances.

Which would you spend the most time preparing for and which would you be most likely do with little or no preparation?

We all make presentations. We try to convince, change a behavior or attitude, or share information and ideas. Since most of the time these presentations are to family, friends, or coworkers – we undervalue the importance of the talk and we not prepare. We go into it with unclear goals and exceptions, and subsequently, fail to reach our goals.

We tend to prepare the least for the presentations that have the greatest impact while preparing the most for the presentations that have the smallest impact.

Most speakers spend less than 2 hours preparing for a formal presentation. When the presentation is to staff, friends, or family, the tendency is to do little or no preparation. They walk in, shoot from the hip, and many times end up shooting themselves in the foot.

When you speak to a room full of people and make a mistake – there is empathy for you. The implications are minimal if you completely blow it: the audience probably will not even remember your name and will think you had a bad day or are a poor presenter. However, what are the implications for a poor performance when you present an idea at a staff meeting? What about when you need to speak to a family member about an important issue?

Treat all your presentations with the importance they are due.

  • Take time to prepare.
  • Identify your objective: know what it is you wish to accomplish.
  • Define your message: what is it you want the person(s) to know?
  • Create effective visual aids: what can you show to help you make your point?

Taking the time to prepare for your smaller presentations is more important than taking the time for the ones to a larger group. Take all your speaking seriously and you will be more effective in many aspects of your life.